Nicole Thomte

Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in Minnesota with 13 years of experience. She uses an affirmative, sex-positive lens and focuses on people whose lives fall outside dominant social expectations. Nicole aims to provide an open, nonjudgmental space where clients can speak freely about identity, relationships, and sexuality.

Her style is largely non-directive and exploratory. She listens first, then helps clients notice patterns and connections that feel useful. Humor and acceptance are part of her sessions when they fit, and she centers each person’s own goals rather than relying on labels.

Nicole draws on a mix of approaches, including Trauma-Focused Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing. She blends these to match what a person brings, using practical skills when helpful and deeper exploration when needed.

Her background includes work in behavioral health settings and long-term involvement co-facilitating survivor groups and advocacy work with organizations focused on gender and sexual justice. That experience shaped her commitment to supporting people facing discrimination and marginalization.

Clients can expect a therapist who emphasizes respect, advocacy, and collaboration. Nicole describes herself as driven and compassionate, and she aims to help people make changes that matter to them.

How these approaches guide online therapy

Nicole uses Trauma-Focused Therapy to help people process traumatic events and reduce the ways those memories disrupt daily life. That approach typically focuses on safety, pacing, and building skills to manage intense feelings.

She also uses Client-Centered Therapy, which prioritizes listening, validation, and following the client's lead so goals come from what matters most to the person. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is used as well to identify unhelpful thoughts and try practical behavior changes that reduce distress.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work. Nicole collaborates with each person to figure out which methods fit their needs, goals, and preferences. That means trying things, checking in, and adjusting the plan together rather than assuming a single method will be right from the start.

Confirm the available session options before booking, since specific online formats are not listed here. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule, shorten travel time, or choose a quicker check-in when life gets hectic. They can also allow for a focus on coping skills and trauma processing using conversation and practical exercises adapted for remote work.